Wednesday, September 29, 2021

Donald Remembered


I was the first to arrive at St. Bernard Catholic Church at 12:30 p.m. for the 1:00 p.m. mass.  I was so happy to spend that time alone with Donald, with no one to interrupt my thoughts.  Happy that I had one last visit with him when his spirits were high.  Happy for the many times we shared together.  Happy that I had such a wonderful brother.

Seeing his crematory vessel brought the stark reality about why I was here.


Soon Donald's son Eric arrived, followed by Donald's wife Masako. Also present were Donald's daughter Myleen and her husband Michael and their son Kenji; Rachel, her husband Troy, their son Koji and daughter Kai; Donald's daughter Naomi; and my son Claude.

Rachel arranged a bouquet from her garden.  There was a photograph of Donald performing tea ceremony, plus a folded American flag for Donald's service in the army during the Korean war.


After the mass Troy, as a representative of the armed forces, presented the flag to Masako.

Afterward we gathered at the funeral home which was almost adjacent to the church for a light lunch.  It was a time for us to catch up on what has been happening in our lives and share the many happy memories that we had from past years.



Tuesday, September 28, 2021

Lost Intentions

 Tuesday, September 28, 2021

I had intended having a light breakfast in my apartment, but wanted to make sure I was signed up for dinner tonight, so I went down to sign up.  When I saw people having breakfast, I succumbed and joined them, eating more than I had intended.  We engaged in a lot of conversation, so when I went up to get ready for my 10:00 a.m. therapy session it was 10:00 a.m.!  I called and apologized, and said I'd be there on Thursday.  But on second thought I'll cancel.

I didn't do much until we played sheepshead at 2:30 p.m.

After dinner I attended an excellent lecture entitled Implicit Bias by Judge Derek Mosley.  He was so inspiring, with examples of how we are bombarded by all kinds of media that we don't realize how biased we are.  He was gracious to have a picture with me.



Sunday, September 26, 2021

Musical Sunday

 After mass I met Marilyn who said a group is going to River West Pizza where Brianna would be performing at 2:00 p.m.  

Peter suggested going to the Germanfest in Germantown, but since I agreed to go with Marilyn, I declined Peter's suggestion

We met in dining room and waited for Bonnie and Pattie, but they left already.  Cookie was planning on going also, so she did the driving in the event she needed her scooter.  The weather was perfect on the patio.  

I ordered a diet Coke and Fried Brussel Sprouts, there went my light eating resolution.

Brianna put on a great performance with a trio backup.  What a treat instead of German um-pah-pah.



Saturday, September 25, 2021

Last Saturday in September

I had breakfast in the Tratoria and lingered until almost time of my 10:30 a.m. hair appointment.  My color took very long and the solution irritated my eyes, but it was a nice color.

I changed bedding, including the mattress pad, and did all the laundry including putting away.

Wisconsin lost to Notre Dame 41 - 13.  The Brewers beat the Mets 2 -1

My 89th Birthday

 Friday, September 24, 2021

My voter registration listed my drivers license expiration as 2017; I checked my license, and sure enough, 2917.  I could have waited until Monday; what would a couple days matter, but I headed to the DMV on Chase Avenue as early as I could.  The agent looked at my license and said it didn't expire until 2025; it was issued in 2017.  I was focusing on the 2017 and ignored the 2025 that was in bold type. Target was two blocks south, so I drew money from the ATM and stocked up on cat litter and other personal items.  I noticed they had an optical department, so I'll get my prescription filled on Monday.

The monthly Birthday party was held at 11:30 a.m. with a couple playing a nice mix of music.


We had a light lunch of sliders, hot dogs, fries and chocolate shakes.

Claude called to wish me a Happy Birthday while I was watching "The Best Years of Our Lives".  Then while I was out of the Club Room I called Peter to arrange a time for him to pick me up for our 7:00 p.m. dinner reservation at Palmer Steak House in Hartland.

Peter came at 6:00 p.m., which was perfect timing.  We drove in light rain and Peter dropped me off at 6:50 p.m. while he found a parking spot.  There was no parking lot, but he managed street parking.

We started off with a martini for me; a gin and tonic for Peter.  I wanted a steak with a bone, undecided on a New York Strip or Rib Eye, but settled on a bone-in filet at a whopping $55.00; Peter ordered lamb chops.  We were served a generous salad with warm, crusty French bread.  My steak was incredible.  It was so delicious I gnawed every morsel from the bone.  The waitress brought a dish of ice cream with a brownie lit by a flaming candle to celebrate my Birthday.

The rain picked up as we drove home.

Thursday, September 23, 2021

Lee Lunch

 Thursday, September 23, 2021

I had my therapy session at 10:00 a.m. and told Dru that I would go through the end of September which would be two more sessions.  Each session without insurance is $140.00. 

I needed to change for the Ladies of Lee-sure lunch, plus look up where to go.  I did not put it on my phone.  Luckily, it was easy to  find in my messages.  I got to Mitchell's Fish Market right on time.  What a wonderful surprise to have my first grade student, Walter Matthews join Stephanie who had him in kindergarten, and Janet who had him in second grade and was responsible for this reunion.


I had a delicious salad with seafood plus an assortment of vegetable.

I got home just in time to gather my dominoes.  Chuck, Jane, Sue Cantrell, Connie and Jack joined me.  We played until it was time for Happy Hour with a sizeable group.

I ended my day with the phone SIG.

Wednesday, September 22, 2021

First Day of Autumn

 Wednesday, September 21, 2021

I started the day with a sitting exercise class, which felt good with a lot of stretching.  This should be a good follow-up after Athletico.

I made a banana nut bread, then picked up a large number of photos at Walgreen's.  I made a sympathy card for Joanne Seidita who just lost her husband Sal.

A few of us went to the Boone and Crockett Bar for our Happy Hour.  It is right be the river.  It's a good place to keep in mind for sitting outdoors on a warm day.  It was only in the low 60s, so would not be too comfortable.


Abby took our picture: Concierge Maggie, Connie Haas, Me, Lanore Lee, and Pattie Featherston.  We ended on a sad note.  We were seated in an elevated alcove.  Even though the step had a yellow marker Connie took a fall when she missed the step when going to pay her bill.  She said she was all right.

We were just in time for a Mexican dinner.  Connie was beginning to feel her pain.  She was using an ice bag and taking aspirin to relieve the pain. 

Monday, September 20, 2021

September Birthdays

September 19, 2021

 I sent Peter a text to pick me up at 2:30 p.m. to be at Laura and Jay's for 3:00 p.m.  When he wasn't at SRS I checked my messages and noticed that he did not respond, which is quite unusual.  I waited until about 2:45, called his home and cell a few times with no reply, so I decided to take off by myself.  I circled the block once more before leaving and called from the car, no answer.  When I was at Oakland Avenue, Laura called that Peter was already there.  His phone was on the fritz so he did not get my message nor could he call me.  We missed each other by minutes, because he was at SRS at the time I was leaving.

The seasoned oyster crackers that I made were very good.  I also brought cheese and assorted crackers.  We had a table laden with appetizers that accompanied a lot of teasing banter.

Laura grilled teriyaki chicken with potato salad, Janice brought a delicious salad.  She made an unusual Bundt cake with chocolate and watermelon gelato that was delicious.

Janice and Brad gave me a lovely bouquet plus a gift certificate, Claude gave me an Amazon gift certificate and Laura and Jay will be taking me to a Bartolata restaurant.





Saturday, September 18, 2021

Everly's 1st Birthday

 September 18, 2021

I bought a manipulation toy for Everly's Birthday.  I bought a card at the Metro Market, but there was no wrapping paper.  I figured foil might do the trick, but there were about 4" on the roll.  I found some graphics and designed my own.  I used eight sheets and pieced them together.  It turned out pretty cute, and I save a lot of money with nothing left over.

It was a beautiful day for the Birthday bash; a yard full of people.  I sat with Bob, Linda and her husband with minimal conversation.  Terry joined us later.

There was plenty of food, excellent chicken; seasoned to the bone and very moist.  

There were heaps of presents, some over the top, especially from the lady across the street.

We finished the party with a Birthday cake.  Everly enjoyed a cupcake.








Wednesday, September 15, 2021

Peter's Passport

 Monday, September 13, 2021

Peter and I left for the German Consulate in Chicago at 7:30 a.m.

We made very good time until we got nearer to the city when we had a long slow-up.  I used the FastToll to avoid the toll booths and go through the Pass lane.  It worked perfectly.

We didn't know we were next to the Omni Hotel because there wasn't a sign on the side we were on.  But Peter managed to get right in front of it on Michigan Ave. 

The valet said he could park on the approach right in front of the hotel.  We got to the Consulate on the 32nd floor, checked in at 9:52 a.m. for his 10:00 a.m. appointment.  We waited for his turn and were finished at 11:00 a.m.  The valet shrugged his shoulders when Peter asked how much we owed.  We probably could have paid nothing, but Peter gave him a $10.00 tip.  It was well worth it.  Where would we have found such convenient parking?

I suggested a Polish restaurant instead of German when we first started out.  It was 11:00 a.m. and neither of us was especially hungry, especially for a full Polish meal.  We decided to go back to Milwaukee and eat on the way.

When Peter suggested the Brat Stop I was all in favor.  His brat and my frankfurter with Riverwest Stein hit the spot. 

Donald Is Gone

September 15, 2021 

Rachel called me while I was at Walmart that Don died at 2:22 p.m. today.

Annoying Sore

September 10, 2021

I saw Dr. Gundamraj about a painful sore in my genital area.  It is very minute, at times I can hardly feel it.  But when I do, it is very painful.  She did not know what it was.  She took a culture and prescribed some cream.

September 15

The sore is so minute that I have a hard time pinpointing it when I apply the cream.  But I know it's there.

September 20

I would say that the sore is completely gone.  I was applying the cream a few times during the day.  I don't feel any painful sensation.


Thursday, September 9, 2021

Thursday, September 9, 2021

Because of Labor Day I had therapy two days in a row.  I'm pretty sore.  I really strained getting off a chair without pushing myself up.

Since it was noon when I finished I stopped for a couple of tacos next door to Athletica.  They were very good and would hold me over while I did my grocery shopping.

I bought a lot of groceries at P & S, since I haven't done any grocery shopping for a while.  I put all the groceries away and it just about time to set up the table for dominoes.  Jane and Chuck wouldn't be there because Jane had some surgery on her nose.  Nobody else came either.  Tony wasn't in the mood to play because he just lost his mother on Saturday.

My shipments arrived (Everly's b'day present, liners and 2 tops).  I stayed down until Happy Hour.  SRS served pizzas, thick crust, hardly any topping.  Unfortunately, they announced that pizzas would be served at 5:00 p.m., instead they were out by about 4:15.  So when people came at 5:00, they were all gone.

Sheepshead Overload

 Wednesday, September 7, 2021

I play sheepshead every Tuesday at SRS, so when Terry asked me to have lunch after Book Club, I said that I have to play sheepshead.  She remarked that I should be playing sheepshead with her and Bob at Hales Corners.  In a text I asked her when they play.  They play every Wednesday at Hales Corners City Hall from 1:00 - 4:00 p.m.

After my therapy I surprised her by being there before her.  We had a lot of laughs.  Tim is a real joker and made the games a lot of fun.  The drive home was long, especially after 4:00 p.m. with heavier traffic.

Monday, September 6, 2021

Labor Day 2021

 Monday, September 6, 2021

Anita invited Peter and me to her house for a Labor Day gathering, along with Eileen and her son Dave, a woman called SAM (her maiden name initials) plus Anita's companion.  We got there just a few minutes before noon with our pot of mums.  It was a perfect day to sit outdoors on her patio.  Anita served potato salad, Eileen's fruit salad and baked beans, barbecued ribs and sour kraut.  We could eat outdoors; however, the yellow jackets were pesky.  Then Eileen served a huge portion of strawberry pie.

The conversation turned controversial about schools, what is taught and racial issues. It could have gotten nasty with Anita's strong opinion.  But I tried to agree with her as much as I could.

All in all, it was a very pleasant afternoon.

We drove back avoiding the freeway until Peter suggested paying Rudy a visit.  He served us coffee as we sat by his koi pond.  It was very relaxing.

Laura called while I was there and she shared with me why Claude didn't come to her cookout.  He wrote an email saying that if brats and hamburgers were being served to count him out.  He was cutting back on beef to preserve the planet.  She was very offended and doesn't plan on inviting him again.  She plans on serving beef tenderloin at Christmas.  I told her that she does not have to announce what she is planning to serve beforehand.  Whatever is on the table can be eaten or passed.

Sunday, September 5, 2021

St. Rita Square Flower Boxes

 Friday, September 3, 2021

The Garden Club met to discuss replacing the petunias in the flower boxes and suggested pansies would be longer lasting than mums.  Jackie called to ask if I'd like to accompany her to Bayside Garden to pick some up.  There was a nice fresh selection of pansies, also a variety of mums.  I bought a nice pot for myself and a pot to give to Anita who invited us to her house on Labor Day.

Saturday, September 4, 2021

I had my hair appointment at 11:30 a.m. so I couldn't help plant to make the piazza look nice for Herman's party.  The petunias were dug out allowing Jackie and Cookie to plant the pansies with sedum that they divided among the boxes.  It really looks nice.

Herman's 85th Birthday Party

 Saturday, September 4, 2021

Herman's daughters really know how to throw a party!  The residents were invited for the 3:00 p.m. party in the piazza.  Unfortunately, the weather didn't look too promising.  Herman's daughter Ann owns a catering business.  She, her sisters and friends were busy earlier in the day decorating with balloons and plants.  At 3:00 p.m. they starting passing food to the tables, since we were not allowed to serve ourselves because of COVID.  We were first served appetizers of summer sausage-cheese kabobs, Thai grilled chicken kabobs mixed nuts and beverages.  For the main course we were served hamburgers or brats with potato salad, cowboy beans, and fruit kabobs.  Dessert was Sima's cheese cake or carrot cake.  What a treat.

We had light sprinkles on and off, but they hardly made the pavement wet; however, my rain bonnet came in handy.  People stayed and visited long after the party ended.  But Ann and her crew had a major clean-up.

Vagabond Picnic

 Sunday, September 5, 2021

I went to the 8:30 a.m. mass at St. Hedwig's today because the 10:30 a.m. mass at St. Rita would end too late to get to the Vagabond picnic at Whitnall Park.

I made a pan of blondies to pass on a very pleasant sunny day.  We picked up a Subway sandwich and folding chairs at Peter's before going to the park.  A sizeable group were gathered to go biking and a few were situated at Area 5 picnic area.  Eunice and I were joined by Marlene and Jean; Peter read the paper.  Les joined us after his bike ride, and our area really filled up.  There was not a passing table as in previous years, so I passed around my blondies; Gloria passed around her box of cookies.

We played dominoes and taught Linda the game.  Diane Zarze came to our table with sad news that Greg has advanced Alzheimer's.

The afternoon was breezy, cloudy, sunny, chilly, but very pleasant.  My favorite Disney bag that held my domino supplies ripped at the bottom. It will be difficult to find as sturdy a bag for that purpose.

Friday, September 3, 2021

Dr. Orton

 September 2, 2021

It was with a lot of apprehension when I had my appointment with Dr. Orton.  He viewed previous MRIs from a few years ago (maybe when I had my kidney surgery) plus the one I had from August 30th.  He compared the two, showing my the spacing between discs.  He pointed out the two discs that are causing my problem pinching the nerve.  It would be very risky doing anything with that nerve.  I would not see immediate relief, and the recovery would be a long process.  He would not advise any kind of surgery.  What I'm doing in therapy is just fine, even though it will take some time.  I felt such relief that I would not have to undergo any surgery.  He was so patient and gave my encouragement with his understandable information.

Wednesday, September 1, 2021

Saint Rita Square Residents

Cookie Anderson 1112

I first met Cookie at the Domes as she was demonstrating origami.  She is still folding at SRS during quiet times.  Cookie is an Ambassador and visited me with other Ambassadors when I first moved in.  She is wheelchair bound, but navigates around very speedily.

Rita Anglehart 1408

Rita is a beautiful woman, very friendly.  We had a very nice conversation when she arrived from East Castle Place.

Frank D'Amato 1102

I see Frank tending his plants outside his door: full-blossomed geraniums and a huge pot of basil.  He waters the plants that the Garden Club planted in the tower and planter.  He ushers at church and his daughter is a lector.

Jon and Anne Bales 1605

Jon is an artist that crafted stained glass ornaments for every newcomer to SRS.  He can be seen sketching and taking part in the drawing class.  He plays sheepshead with us on Tuesday.

Anne recognized me from AAUW.  She is wheelchair bound.

Chuck and Jane Boecher 1611

Chuck and Jane are always together, except when he's playing sheepshead with us.  He tried teaching me dominoes, but now both are more interested in Screw Your Neighbor.

Janice Collins 1302

When I told Janice that I have a daughter named Janice, she added J-A-nice.  I see her watering her numerous plants on her balcony.

Roosevelt Cooper 1211

Roosevelt's apartment is across the hall from mine.  I have never seen him, but his shelf has accumulation of papers that have been distributed, also a parcel.  I heard that he's been away for dialysis, but unfortunately he died recently.

Sue Cottrell 1207

Sue walks her dog a few times throughout the day.  Her balcony is overflowing with plants.

Rita Edwards 1305

Rita is a real fashion plate, very tastefully dressed.  We both like to watch movies together.

Judith (Judy) Engel 1308

Judy is a Vagabond and a SRS Ambassador.  She is inclined to fall, and had done so frequently.  She is now in the hospital (9/1/2021) after falling with no one knowing about it.  She usually eats at Table 10.

Constance "Connie" Haas 1505

Connie is very outgoing with a hardy laugh.

Annie Hahn 1205

Annie is a sharp sheepshead player.  She loves to see Hello Dolly exploring the hall.

Pattie Fetherston 1411

Patti was the first to welcome me to Table 10.  She is very concerned about other people.

Jackie Haessly and Dan Di Domizio 1409

Jackie is a real leader.  She took charge of the Garden Club and the verbo composting.  She graciously offered to take care of Hello Dolly when Peter and I went to Munising, MI.

I have not had too much interaction with Dan

Jack Huennekens 1407

Jack usually stops at tables in the dining room to do some chatting.  He is very fit and is a regular in the fitness room.  I see him going there later in the evening.  He leads a Bible study and rosary group on Saturdays; also, reads the petitions at the Tuesday mass.  He continues his love of his wife by putting a bouquet of fresh flowers in his room for her.

Rosemary Kawlewski 1507

Rosemary is an Ambassador and spreads friendship wherever she goes.

Rockne Koch 1402

Rockne is quiet and sometimes joins us at dinner.


Lanore Lee 1110

Lanore loves everything about St. Rita and says her blessings about all that God has provided.  We both love eating our breakfast outdoors and sometimes she get the spillover from the water from my plants.  She participates in many activities, especially fitniess.

Joe and Sharon Malenda 1301

I was surprised to meet Master Gardener Joe Malenda, although he said that he is no longer a member.  Sharon was the administrator of Friends of Boerner.  We are working together with the Garden Club; they will be coordinating with the chef on the herbs he needs, I will be deadheading and fertilizing.

Sandra "Sandi" and Bob Mendelsohn 1609

Sandi is an Ambassador and visited me when I first moved in.  She plays sheepshead and is an avid learner.

Marilyn Minor 1304

Marilyn and I usually greet it other in the morning as I'm having my breakfast on my balcony as long as the weather is favorable.  She comes from California and is happy to have found SRS.

Eugene Pocernich 2602

Gene is an ordained priest, but does not refer to himself as one.  He is very sociable.

Marceline "Marcie" Roberts 1405

Marcie is very petite, but has unbelievable energy.  It is quite often that I see her with her shopping cart walking to P & S on Lyon St.  She eats at Table 10, but has to sit on a cushion because she is so tiny.  She is a lector at the Tuesday mass and reads with such inflection that the message resounds.

Barbara Schmidt 1610

Barbara is a Vagabond and a SRS Ambassador.  She is very physically active, taking stairs instead of the elevator, walks to St. Hedwig, roller skates, ice skates, plus active in the fitness room.


John Peter Wolter 1213

John Peter has a wry sense of humor.  We play sheepshead on Tuesdays.  He eats at Table 10 and composed this poem.

Table Ten

I've become a wino sitting at Table Ten                                                  With the Charming ladies and erudite men.

From the ladies my heart is brightened                                                    From the men my mind enlightened.

Both ladies and gents add so very much,                                                  Still it's the wine that adds the magic touch.

Whether deep robust red or sparkling white                                           It's the wine that is the greatest delight.

I sip, sip, sip, and drink, drink drink                                                  Imbibing more and more, and more than I think.

My head spins round and round and the lights go low                          My brain is clogged and my speech is slow.

I have drunk deeply, far more than I am able                                        Now in silence, I slip beneath the table.

At last, under the table quiet, I sleep                                                    Then slowly I awake and homeward I creep.

If after the meal you are one who lingers,                                            Take care; don't step on my fingers.